What do you do when it’s time to figure out what to wear and the closet becomes enemy #1. Or, how many times have you gone into your closet, packed full of clothes often still with price tags on) and whined, I can’t find anything to wear. Sound all too familiar?
Insecurities and self-doubt when getting dressed equals poor body image. This is the number one reason why women struggle with what to wear. And as we mature an all too familiar mantra is: this is way to short or too low cut or so tight something is going to pop. As women we think about our bodies everyday which affects our self-image and mental well-being.
Relationship To Clothes And First Impressions
Inescapably, the clothing and the fashion industry is part of life and sadly but true. In today’s society people are judgmental and personal image sends an immediate message.what we see in the magazines or runways does not fit the average women’s profile or body. What to buy and what to wear is a daily affair and becomes very confusing. It is a challenge to say the least when clothes and self-image can determine a negative or positive outcome. We have all heard put your best foot forward and know that first impressions are critical even if we think or say it shouldn’t matter, it does.
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Major TV networks and corporations are catering to self-help programs on how to find style and what to wear to recreate self-image. My favorite is The Learning Channel, “What Not to Wear”… honestly could we go into the closet and suddenly throw everything out…maybe if someone handed us a credit card and said go shopping. These programs do point to one important fact. Women feel better, gain self-confidence and their self -image drastically improves once made over.
The Closet Friend Or Enemy
DON’T FREAK OUT, when having self-sabotaging conversations simply grant yourself the emotional space to acknowledge that getting dressed can be stressful, especially if you are not feeling warm and fuzzy about yourself that day.
Remember that saying, “back away from the equipment” in this case…back away from the closet applies! It’s important to take a moment and allow your feelings to surface and then work with those feelings before approaching the closet. This simple moment can redirect a melt down. Also if you see piles of clothes everywhere it just means it’s time to examine your relationship with how to approach the closet and your clothes.
Mini Closet Tips
- Go into the closet and let your eyes focus on your favorite color.
- Start with a top, selecting colors has a calming effect and always start with a top.
- Hold the top or scarf up to your face and just take in the color.
- Pick out one of your favorite pieces of jewelry preferable with sparkle, put it on.
- Pretty objects elicit feelings of prettiness and beauty.
- Play dress up, your inner spirit remembers the times you played dress up.
- Try on favorite shoes one on each foot and choose the one that you love the best.
- When doing this start to put a few items on to make an outfit.
- Experience being present rather than having to get dressed.
The most important rule is don’t be judgmental, be present and feel the items you are selecting. Once dressed we usually feel better. For more on closets see part two on how to have a healthy closet in the Healthy Living Department.